Are you evolving? How do you know if you are truly aligned and on the right path? Can you see your own spiritual blindspot? Do you truly “love”? As in, “unconditional love”. Or, is your love conditioned? Are you ruled by your limbic reaction or did you utilize your neocortex? Is your ego the driving force behind your every motivation and action, and can you recognise it? I think these are questions which are important to ask ourselves if we want to progress spiritually and truly aligned. Be warned, this will be a serious topic only for people who are interested to align properly and willing to do serious contemplation and self reflection into themselves. Let’s dive deeper into this serious topic right now!
How many times we are upset with others for something that they have said or things that they have done which are out of our expectation? It will be situations where we are close to someone, be it a close friend, a family member or anyone who holds a place in our heart, that the trust and bond was developed due to synergy in thoughts, conditioned loving actions, understanding, patience, care and concern and many other shared experiences developing a strong connection. When I say “conditioned loving actions”, I mean to say that between conditioned love and unconditional love, there is a clear distinction but yet many people mistaken the true meaning of “unconditional love”. Unconditional love means that the time, effort, patience, care, expectation and any sort of emotional investment into the “love” is uncondtional. It means that, this love given, be it the time, effort, patience, care, expectation or any sort of emotional investment does not need to be reciprocal! That person does not need to appreciate you, or that situation does not need to be worth your time and effort. It is an “end” not a “mean”. The loving intention and action that you did was unconditional. It will be something you do and does not require any recognition or appreciation. If one really mean to give unconditional love, we need to question ourselves if all these apply. Otherwise, it will still be “conditioned love”. The need for approval and acknowledgement of our action was needed in this case. This needs to be clear in order to know our own motivation behind our every action. Which contributes to whether we are truly on the right path. Or going down a path blinded by our own egoic nature and never being able to realize it. When our relationship between our close ones starts to deteriorate due to mistrust, quarrels, betrayals and many other types of emotional negative experience, we tend to place the blame on them. We scrutinized their every hurting word towards us and seemingly used a magnifying glass to zoom in on the pain they gave to us. We held on tight to their last words and actions and continuously played that drama out in our mind over and over again escalating and compounding the damage done to us. The closer they are to us, the longer we dwell on the pain and suffering they did to us and also the greater the contempt and unforgiveness towards them.
Well, here is the deal. The real deal here is recognizing the pitfalls and being truly aware! If you have done all the above “consciously” and are aware of your own motivation and action, then, I am beyond words. However, the fact is, many of us did not even realize and are not conscious and aware. We were “programmed” to act, think and behave in a certain way beyond our conscious awareness! We reacted in a very “limbic” way and went through the motion behaving negatively without any control. The negative emotion ruled us. It almost acted like having a “will” on its own! Why did this happen? It was due to the karmic pattern that was embedded within us, passed down from many lifetimes of unresolved resolutions. We go through the repetition umpteen times playing out in different scenarios continually and drawing new composited lessons which gets harder and harder until a breaking and tipping point which was supposed to shake us to “think” why did it happen to us! Only when we start to use the neocortex to do critical thinking, things will never change. The repetition goes on through a limbic reaction which does not go through the neocortex. When we stop and start to contemplate and self-reflect, questioning why did it happen and start to replace it with the right thought, intention and action, then can the situation change and improve. We start to look at our own actions also. So, instead of looking outwards and blaming others, we should be looking within by understanding, acceptance and unconditional love towards not just others, but ourselves. We can ask ourselves, “are we perfect? Did we do the same thing to others also on another occasion?” Therefore, we are not without fault ourselves, how can we blame others and do the same thing and not be able to forgive what others did to us, be it consciously or unconsciously, right? We start to have expectations without noticing we have it. It is like a blindspot which lurks in our shadow waiting for light to shine through by way of just reflecting upon ourselves!
The right thought, intention and action pertains to looking at ourselves instead of looking outwards. Rather than the limbic reaction of looking at the opposite party or circumstances and starting the negative loop, it is vital to “will” ourselves to look within and start questioning. When we use our neocortex, it is syntropic in nature since energy is required to counter the entropic state of negative emotional impulses. It is actually “love in action”! But when we allow the negative emotional instinct to take over, it will be entropic in nature and we will end up worse than ever! It is crucial to do contemplation and self-reflection in our thought, intention and action not once in a while or whenever we are free. It is necessary to do it for your every motivation, intention and action! Because the intention stems from the motivation and eventually to the action, that contributes to the continuation of the karmic pattern or the ending and resolvement of it. When we start to “will” ourselves to do the “right thing”, we will draw new experiences which will transcend the situation since we had “passed” the test. Without conscious critical thinking, we can never change the situation since a new resolution did not occur. If we did not realize that we are stuck in a perpetual negative cycle, we can never progress to our next level of consciousness. If we want to change our external situation, we need to go within and do the innerwork since, “as within, so without” applies.
Some of us may believe in the fact that we are living in a holographic universe which many scientists now talk about and believe in through their scientific endeavors in Cosmology, Particle Physics, Quantum Physics and many other arenas all pointing to the multiverse theory. Michael Talbot’s bestseller book first published in 1991 called “The Holographic Universe” is a classic masterpiece of how reality and consciousness works. Therefore, if you believe that our universe is holographic, which translates also to the fact that it is essentially a virtual reality, this corresponds to traditions holding that earth is a school and place for souls to learn. To transcend beyond earth and its attracting force of karmic entanglements back to this school place, we need to and can only rise above it through conscious will and critical thinking to apply syntropic intentions and actions to break the entropic pull. Our egoic nature ties back to the physical expression of the human vehicle. This is the reason why there seemed to be a conflict within us all the time. We “react” before we can “think”. Whenever something happened, we first reacted and then regretted our own bad behavior thereafter and felt hopeless since there didn’t seem to be any conscious control over our own reaction. It is synonymous with the fight for control between our ego and True self. However, the same is true to relinquish any bad negative karmic pattern, if we apply the same through “conscious” will by positive thought, intention and action. The more we use our neocortex, the better we can break free from any egoic negative patterns and truly align on the right path.
Let’s start to contemplate and self-reflect our every motivation, intention and action daily. Even if it cannot be consciously done on a daily basis, start at the minimum to do it after each upheaval of any emotional incident instead of letting the matter slide. Only when we are able to make a conscious will to apply syntropic intention and action, can we progress, evolve and transcend beyond the illusory holographic universe which we are in.