Facing disappointments and frustrations because of the expectation of others? This topic will bring some light to how we can stop ourselves from falling into the trap of unhappiness and bitterness! Let’s find out how to escape from the trap and without any further delay, let’s get into this right now! 

We make a mistake whenever we expect someone else to understand us, we are actually expecting the sky high! We need to understand that each one’s reality is subjected to each own experiences and consciousness level. We are faced with our own challenges and they are solely meant for our own breakthrough by our own contemplation and self-reflection to manage and overcome. Nobody is causing it to us, not unless we allow others to do it to us. There can be no one on earth who can totally understand the intricate details and the emotion which arises from the situation. So, why should we expect others to understand us or know exactly what we are going through and feeling? Two people can be going through the same type of challenge but the experience may be totally different! One may feel contentment through the challenge because this person saw the answer to the problem and knew all that was happening was for the betterment of the soul. The other may feel utter resentment towards the situation and everyone involved because of the negative viewpoint and energy that he or she harbors. Even an identical twin will not be seeing the same perspective!

The problem is, we will always expect others to understand us simply because we think that they are “supposed” to know and understand us through many years of interaction or communication. However, we failed to understand that, regardless of the number of years or time spent together, we are still an individual body encompassing different realities and experiences. Whatever we are going through is subjective and solely designed for our own soul growth. The challenges that we faced are presenting us with a choice to choose to think and react in a positive or negative manner. In turn, you either collect a good karma or a bad one, so to speak. Nobody put us through it even though we may be faced with a situation that was brought up to us by others. Notwithstanding, it is imperative to know that, even if that is the case we must be able to recognize that this earth experience is a learning journey for us and hence, others are part of the program to give us challenges and situations for us to “choose”! Choose to do what? Choose to make either a positive or negative outcome. 

When we are able to see this point, instead of struggling with the question of “why” others are doing this to us? Or “why” is our life so hard? ” We should start to ask, “what” can I do about it? Or “what” shall be my next step? The trouble is when we are emotionally charged up and it is actually difficult for us to disengage with the emotion to think and react with solutions. However, we need to train ourselves to come out of the automated response induced by the Reptilian or the Limbic part of the brain through the use of Neocortex which governs the higher faculty which is the executive control within our brain. We need to kick ourselves out of the emotionally charged response of fear, anger, sadness, worry, unhappiness etc. and instead “think” through the problem and allow our reasoning part of our mind to overwrite all the automated responses which do not do any thinking! Why are we told to take deep breaths whenever we feel the rise in emotion? Well, you guessed it, right! It is to create a short gap between the automated response by allowing a break to happen in between so that we break the momentum of the automated emotional impulse and allow the possibility of our Neocortex’s higher reasoning faculty to enter. 

Training makes perfect. In order to break any habitual response which had been ingrained for as long as you had grown or perhaps it’s lifetime after lifetime’s karmic responses, it is of our paramount goal to break beyond and release ourselves from the karmic pull back to our neverending Earth’s life experiences! We need to make it our utmost effort to overcome our own emotional impulses in order to pass this Earth test. Stop looking outwards and pointing the fingers outside of ourselves and choose to look within. Not until we start to realize that everything is happening “for” us instead of “to” us, we will be stuck in this negative loop and never be able to progress in our soul’s growth.

How much time do you want to stay back in class if your progression into your next level is long due? Advanced souls are progressing much faster than usual but here you are, do you still want to stay back and refuse to look into your own problem? Sooner or later, you will still have to look into your own problem and start to change your own shortcomings isn’t it? So, why wait? If we know that there are things which we are aware of which needs to be addressed and changed, we jolly well do it. Otherwise, the challenge will get harder and harder. Universal laws will generate situations accordingly in order to shake us out of the “comfort” zone of status quo! By avoiding and sweeping things under the carpet doesn’t make our problem go away. It is time to take charge of our life and soul’s growth by looking into ourselves and making positive changes instead of expecting others to change to suit us! When we are always expecting others not to treat us this way or that way or being upset with others for what they said to us, we are going around in circles. Since, we can only change ourselves! Others can say what they want, do what they want. It is their own lessons, soul journey and karmic implications they are involved in. What is instead necessary for us, is to look at what is before us that were presented to us and realize what we need to do about it. 

Say for instance, if someone else is raising their voice at us, who can be our family member or even a stranger. Rather than being upset at them for doing that to us and expecting that they cannot do that to us, the best thing to do is to see what is best for us in this situation. Should we walk away and cool ourselves down or should we argue with them and expect them not to raise their voice at us? When we expect others to always do what we want them to do to us, we will continue to get the same lessons continuously since it is us who has the final say in what is the reality we draw to ourselves through our own thoughts and actions. Quantum observation is your observation of your own thoughts generating your own reality. Repeated situations or challenges will persist not until we change our perspective and adjust towards harmony and balance. Others are triggered by what we do, say or even look. So, it doesn’t matter why they did what they did or said what they said, since the answer will be fruitless. What is important is, what do we do about it as everything happens for a reason. As within, so without as per universal law of Correspondence. What is happening outside of us, is a reflection of what is happening inside of us. When our inside, which is our internal landscape, is peaceful and harmonious, our outside is going to be peaceful and harmonious too. Challenges may come, but we can handle it with peace and harmony. By the same token, if our internal landscape is messy, chaotic and gloomy, our external circumstances will turn out to be messy, chaotic and gloomy for sure! 

Whenever we feel short changed by others, unappreciated or worse still if maligned or mistaken by others, can we be the bigger person to understand and forgive them? Considering that, they are part of being the catalyst for our soul growth and are essential to provide us challenges to give us a chance to choose to be good. If we only treat people who are nice and good to us, what merit will there be? Only when we are in an underprivileged situation and yet chose to be “good” by reacting positively, then we are the true warrior of light, isn’t it? The key here is, “choice”. It is a choice that we make. Look around you and your own experiences. How many times are you a slave to your own emotions? Is there any control over your reaction? Do you feel good after reacting badly when the matter is over? There is power in the choice that you make. You are the one deciding to react positively. Not your emotions. Your emotions are part of your make-up through karmic entanglements by nature of your repeated “non-action” of succumbing to the repeated lifetimes of negative loop. They are a series of events self generated by a seeming record player. If nobody presses the stop button, it continues to play automatically and could continue to be harder and harder since it’s meant to shake us out of the karmic loop in order for us to choose to do the “right thing” for soul progression. There are many of us, who are also always expecting God or some may call it Divine Source to do magic for us. We pray and expect magic to happen. But, let’s face up to the truth of reality. We are in a 3D physical world which is a school and we are supposed to navigate this earth’s experience with our choices! Magic will happen through our thoughts, intentions and actions. Universal laws aligned according to our output! It will start with us. We need to be responsible for our own thoughts and actions. We cannot blame others or even God for lessons which are self generated for our own soul growth. Universal laws don’t stop even if you did not realize there is one! When we are looking outwardly by blaming others we are stuck in the loop through ignorance. 

Let’s start to evolve in the right direction instead of staying back and lamenting over things which just need our attention to overcome. Not until we start to do the contemplation and self-reflection work ourselves, I guarantee you that you will continue to draw lessons repeatedly to yourself. Just look at your own experiences and you will realize the same type of situations, challenges and people keep coming to you. Until you change your thoughts and start to do something different will the problem cease. There is power in forgiveness and acceptance. Be the steward of your own life, thoughts and actions. Don’t be a slave to your own emotions. Life starts from here. Be empowered through wisdom instead of ignorance.